It all started with a simple argument about who would keep the family dog. But before you knew it, what began as a relatively peaceful separation morphed into a bitter, drawn-out legal battle—with both sides fighting for control over every detail. One minor disagreement seemed to spark a high-conflict divorce and chain reaction neither of you saw coming.
Welcome to a high-conflict divorce—a process where emotions can turn minor issues into an all-out war in divorce court.
Characteristics of a High-Conflict Divorce
A high-conflict divorce is full of emotional stress and can lead to protracted legal battles. Disagreements are everywhere, and instead of working together, the couple focuses on making the other miserable. This hurts both spouses and can also affect their children. Here are some critical signs of a high-conflict divorce.
Knowing these signs is the first step in adequately handling them.
- Frequent Legal Wrangling: Constant motions, filings, and court appearances over major and sometimes minor issues.
- Lack of Compromise: One or both parties refuse to settle and insist on “winning” every point.
- Personal Attacks by One or Both Spouses: The focus shifts to attacking the other spouse’s character and credibility.
- Involvement of Third Parties: An army of professionals is called in. Lawyers, mediators, therapists, financial advisors, etc., are constantly needed to manage escalating tensions.
- Emotional Manipulation of Others: Children may be caught in the middle and used as leverage in the custody dispute.
- Prolonged Process: Be prepared. A high-conflict divorce can drag on for many time-consuming and expensive months or years.
Managing a High-Conflict Divorce
It’s difficult to predict what might happen during a high-conflict divorce. There are, however, ways to minimize or even prevent these disputes from spiraling out of control. Here are seven strategies to help de-escalate a high-conflict divorce:
- Communicate – Keep talks clear and focused on solving the problem. Avoid blaming or bringing up the past.
- Set Boundaries – Create limits around sensitive topics to prevent emotional outbursts and reduce conflict.
- Control Emotions – Stay calm, especially with anger, to help resolve disagreements and work toward an agreement.
- Prioritize the Children – Focus on what’s best for the kids, which encourages cooperation instead of fighting to “win.”
- Mediation–Involving a competent and neutral third party can diffuse tension and guide conversations toward a fair resolution.
- Professional Therapy/Counseling–Individual or couples counseling can provide emotional support and teach conflict resolution. Mastering these skills can help ease tensions.
- Experienced Attorneys – One of the easiest ways to end conflict is to agree to everything your soon-to-be ex-spouse demands. However, the “easiest” way is not always the best way. That’s why you must resolve the conflict while protecting your self-interests. The best way to do this is with a caring attorney skilled in resolving high-conflict divorces.
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