Many clients have walked into our office over the years, knowing divorce is the logical next step. This doesn’t necessarily mean they want to end their marriage — many are emotionally broken by this tough decision. But they also know it’s the right decision. And yet, for every client committed to divorce, just as many are hesitant to pull the trigger. They straddle the proverbial fence, repeatedly waffling back and forth and asking themselves, “Should I get a divorce?” Taking a divorce quiz might help.
Stuart Watson, a family and divorce mediator in Oregon for over 20 years, wrote an interesting article in 2022 that pooled together 25 relevant questions into a divorce quiz. And it’s perfect for those who need a fresh way to process their unique situation.
How Does the Divorce Quiz Work?
Start by drawing three columns onto a single sheet of paper. At the top of each column, write Yes, No, and Sometimes. All you have to do next is read each question and put a checkmark in the corresponding column based on your answer.
Watson states that if you end up with fewer than six “yes” marks, your marriage might be salvageable.
If your answers fall between six and 12 “yes” marks, you could still save your marriage. However, it will take more commitment for you and your spouse. This could include seeking marriage counseling or some other form of therapy.
If you have more than 12 “yes” marks, “the likelihood that your marriage can be saved and restored is extremely low.”
Divorce Quiz — 25 Questions To Ask Yourself Right Now
Here are the 25 questions Watson asked in his divorce quiz:
- My spouse is so critical, demanding, or controlling that I can’t ever relax and be authentic.
- We have no shared projects, goals, or dreams we are working on toward the future.
- When family or friends are disrespecting me, my spouse does not protect me, support me, defend me, or “have my back.”
- We tried to heal our relationship wounds and traumas with professional help. We were unsuccessful and have given up.
- Sex is off the table, or if we do have sex, I feel empty and sad during and afterward.
- I share my struggles and triumphs with others but not my spouse.
- We are constantly, bitterly arguing, and my nervous system never actually calms down.
- I only do things with and for my spouse when it directly benefits me.
- The other areas of my life (e.g., work, friends, recreational, spiritual) are satisfying; it is only this marriage that is bringing me down.
- I increasingly don’t enjoy or dread spending time with my spouse.
- We no longer have curiosity about or ask each other about their day, experiences, or goals.
- I believe our marital issues are their fault. I don’t want to grow or make changes that support the changes I want to see in them.
- Neither of us knows how or tries to repair the relationship after a fight or hurtful incident has occurred.
- I am yearning for an affair and secretly flirting or exploring online dating.
- There is an overall power or work imbalance between us, which benefits my spouse, which they refuse to address.
- Neither of us knows the other’s attachment wounds or a desire to help the other feel safe, secure, loved, and appreciated.
- My spouse is defensive and has never taken accountability or apologized for actions that have negatively impacted me.
- We do not know each other’s “love language” or refuse to express love in a manner that is meaningful to each other.
- When talking to friends or family about my marriage, I rarely have anything kind or positive to say.
- I have fully considered the negative effects of divorce on the children. I believe divorce is best because I want my children to see their parents healthy and happy.
- While we are both miserable in the marriage, neither of us has tried to get help or develop new relationship skills.
- We do not try to develop forgiveness for mistakes made by the other.
- There really is no fighting…because we don’t interact. We just avoid each other.
- I have been suffering with the decision for over two years, but I cannot re-commit myself to reconciling and restoring this marriage.
- We have tried at least three marriage classes, couples’ support groups, or couples’ counselors, with no improvement or hope.
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