You want a divorce. Unfortunately, your spouse doesn’t know yet, and you’re unsure how to ask for a divorce without causing enough chaos to send your family into an emotional tailspin and set yourself up as the unfeeling villain.
The reality is that there’s no good way to ask for a divorce. But the team here at Christman | Daniell can provide pre-divorce planning, including tactful steps you can take right now to soften the blow, handle any negative emotions with grace, help you come across as sincere, and perhaps set you both up for an amicable divorce process moving forward.
5 Tips To Ask for a Divorce Without Causing Chaos
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Be honest, but don’t point fingers
When information your spouse that you want a divorce, you owe it to your spouse and yourself to be honest and clear about the reasons you came to this decision. This is true even if those reasons are difficult to hear. At the same time, it’s important to speak softly, use tact when discussing details, and don’t extend blame or make them feel attacked. If you show your spouse compassion and respect, they will be more apt to listen and remain rational.
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Be prepared to answer questions
Divorce is a big change, and needing clarity and closure is part of the process. It’s helpful to process questions with a therapist, if possible.
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Consider giving marriage counseling a try first
If you inform your spouse that you want a divorce but have never previously expressed your concerns and dissatisfaction with the marriage, it’s a good idea to consider marriage counseling before you finalize your decision to end the marriage. You may learn through counseling that the marriage can be saved after all.
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Remain calm
The last thing you want to do when you ask for a divorce is to get upset and create chaos based on your negative reactions to their reaction to the news. Stay calm, and don’t raise your voice. Calmness breeds more calmness.
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Step up financially
When you inform your spouse that you want a divorce, it’s only natural for your spouse to fear the future. If you’ve always been the primary breadwinner in the home, it’s important to keep stability with the finances.
Christman | Daniell, has a unique and refreshing approach to the often turbulent and emotionally stressful disputes arising in the context of divorce, child custody, and other family law cases. Our firm anchors its representation and legal advice in principles and philosophies that focus on the long-term best interests of children and families. We are committed to supporting and guiding you through the dark days of marital discord and crisis.
Please call Christman | Daniell for your legal needs today!
Looking for family law services in Collin County, Texas? Christman | Daniell is your premier choice. With years of experience and a deep understanding of the legal landscape, our skilled team is dedicated to helping families navigate complex legal matters. Whether it’s divorce, child custody, or adoption, trust Christman | Daniell to provide compassionate and effective representation for all your family law needs throughout Collin County.
