You’re getting a divorce, and up to this point, you haven’t said a word to anyone other than your kids. And to be totally honest, you kind of prefer it that way. After all, the less that people in your inner circle know, the less you’ll have to explain what happened, how you’re feeling, and where you’re at in the process. That said, things like this don’t stay a secret for long. So, you’re beginning to wonder if it’s better just to get out in front of it. You even wonder aloud, “Should I tell friends, family, and coworkers about my divorce?”
This is a difficult question to answer and really comes down to when and if you’re ready to break the news. First and foremost, you should give yourself time to process what’s happening, your feelings on the matter, and the next logical legal steps.
From there, it’s totally up to you when you should go public.
Ask yourself these questions before telling friends, family, and coworkers about your divorce:
- Who should probably know now (parents, siblings, close friends, teachers, daycare personnel)?
- Who can find out later (coworkers, neighbors, extended family, etc.)?
- How much information am I willing to share?
- What information should I not share (perfect question for a lawyer)?
- Will it help me to have people to lean on during this time?
- Does telling others about my divorce negatively or positively impact my kids?
Divorce Isn’t an Easy Thing to Talk About
It’s important to be prepared as you begin telling friends, family, and coworkers about your divorce. This isn’t an easy conversation — even if you’ve given yourself enough time to process everything. Expect to be emotional, and be prepared for a litany of reactions and an endless list of questions. Remember that you’re not obligated to answer every question, nor are you expected to put up with negative talk. So don’t be afraid to let people know what you can or cannot discuss and what you’d like from them moving forward.
If they’re being too negative with their reactions and advice, tell them.
If you’d prefer they respect your privacy and confidentiality, let them know immediately.
Tell them if you need more or less love and support. This will help them serve your needs better when the time comes.
Christman | Daniell, has a unique and refreshing approach to the often turbulent and emotionally stressful disputes arising in the context of divorce, child custody, and other family law cases. Our firm anchors its representation and legal advice in principles and philosophies that focus on the long-term best interests of children and families. We are committed to supporting and guiding you through the dark days of marital discord and crisis.
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